The primary bedroom is your sanctuary. It is the place where you go to escape the world and recharge. Given that concept, the primary needs to be comfortable and attractive too. Using a neutral palette, you easily accomplish both goals.
Every primary bedroom should reflect the taste and lifestyles of all that share the room. So no to matchy-matchy primary bedrooms. It is great to bring in things that you have gathered over the years to create personal interest and to keep comfort levels high. I personally avoid pictures of friends, family and children in the primary. They often bring up memories that can cause unrest. Stick to pictures of you and your partner or scenes of your travels. In going with a neutral palette in your linens, you open the door to letting the art and accessories shine.
Choose furniture pieces that supply generous storage and reflect your personality and style. Nightstands often do not match. One may like drawers, while the other prefers an open bottom or shelves. Others prefer the symmetry of matching nightstands. I do prefer a matching pair of bedside lamps to add an element of calm and unity.
You work hard to provide a safe and comfortable “home” for your family. That is why you should allow yourself to enjoy your primary bedroom the way you want it. Furnish and accessorize the way that is soothing to you. Others can certainly have their thoughts and opinions on other rooms in your home, but when it comes to the primary it is all about you. Enjoy.